Does He Really Like Me or Am I Just His Booty Call?
If you've even asked yourself this question, you already know. But you may want to read to be sure.
In some situations, it's easy to get confused about what's going on between you and a potential beau. A guy may just be taking things slowly, like a cautious young man. Other guys may just be casual—nothing serious there, mate! Or, others may consider themselves players—you may have been classed as the dreaded booty call, and you don't even know it yet.
If you're a bit of a female player or strictly casual yourself, then you won't mind at all. However, if you really like this guy and think it's going somewhere, A.K.A. relationship land, and your gut is telling you something's just not right, read on!
Do any of the following apply to you?


1. He has a girlfriend or other girl (one-off) on the side.
2. You have serious suspicions he's sexting someone else.
3. Your friends and his can easily prove your suspicions.
4. Almost every time you meet up is planned or initiated by him and are almost always on his terms and turf.
5. Rendezvous always lead to sex.
6. All you two do together is "get it in."
7. Meeting in public is often a no-no unless it's for dinner or drinks, when he finds it absolutely necessary. Points four and five, listed above, are especially pertinent here.
8. Every time you meet, he never called to make plans in advance. He always calls and meets on the same day—at most, he will phone the day before.
9. If, and that's a big, strong "if," he phones in advance, like a week earlier, the first thing he says is, "I'm free next [insert day, time, and place here]."
10. You have been meeting for a considerable length of time with no growth in the relationship (if you can even call it that).
11. He only calls you to initiate meeting up or sex. All other communication is done via text, Facebook chat, or IM, and all he says is mundane crap and silly things. In retrospect, you realize it never amounts to an actual conversation.
12. His friends giggle as quietly as possible when in your presence.
13. There are no emotional discussions concerning the two of you.
14. There are no emotional discussions, period!
15. He has the task of taking off your clothes down to the second—you'd be butt-naked before Usain Bolt finishes a 100-meter.
16. There's no falling asleep after sex. If it's over, he gets you to leave, or if it's at your place, he does.
17. Unless the sex is good. Then you can stay over for a morning sesh—followed by one of you leaving.
18. Cuddles and lovey-doveyness never happens before or after sex. If it does, he's keeping you buttered up, so he can have your services for longer.
19. He says, "Thank you," after sex, possibly followed by, "Have a nice day/rest of night."
20. Hook ups are only when he feels like it, not you (it isn't really about you). They happen when he is free and doesn't have another girl over.
21. Whenever you make a request, he is busy.
22. He doesn't care about the new underwear you sadly bought for him, but appreciates your level of hygiene and pubic hair maintenance.
23. Your friends roll their eyes as soon as you name drop him.
24. You've seen him out having dinner with someone else.
25. He loves doing it doggy-style—eye contact and any contact other than sexual doesn't interest him. (I am aware there would be other positions going on, but a noticeable preference for this one is a red flag.)
26. You are always almost drunk, buzzed, or tipsy whenever you have sex.
27. He is never all up in your George Foreman when you want him to be (yep, there's a bit of slang for you).
28. He hates it when you squealing over babies or cute things—he acts as though talking of such things are rude. If you speak, he prefers it to be dirty!
29. When he asks about your day, he hopes it was bad, so you can let out some pent-up steam on him.
30. You can see many of the signs above in your current situation, but are still in full-blown denial.
Bear in mind it takes more than one of these signs to confirm booty-call status. If you can only tick one, fear not! You may be more than a tap-in, tap-out.
However, if it turns out you are, and you don't want to be, woman up—get rid of him or demand more. Unfortunately, you need to be realistic. More than likely will not work either. The fact that you are a booty call says it all—he won't give more.

тогда почему No? Бути кол это понятно. По-моему, правила прекрасно отваживают на ранних этапах весь мусор. Насчет планов конкретных и главное действий +1000000

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Porque el alma prende fuego cuando deja de amar.

Канадка, ну я же ответила-validation. Им надо показать новую подружку, что получить одобрение, похвастаться новим трофеем. Поетому и знакомят. Я не говорю что ето плохо, но есть еше другие вариаблс(eg booty calls)

Хорошую статью кстати дали.

У Ёжика непонятно, было ли бути кол, но вот агрессия когда, надо было второго раза не ждать. Неужели руку поднимал?

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Porque el alma prende fuego cuando deja de amar.

Канадка, я соглана что ето информативная статеика. Особенно если ви новоразведенная в Америке. Я думаю много девченок наших обожглось. Особенно booty calls проявляются после 3-4 секса. Мужики pull away, а ми им даем второи шанс. А не нужно! shake it off and next

Мне еще кажется, мы часто нас собственный gut - нашу интуицию - не слушаемся, заглушаем ее отговорками, сердцем, разумом, и т.д. А ведь всегда наше нутро чувствует, что что-то не то. Дает нам слабые, но сигналы. А мы его заглушаем и делаем ошибки и себя таким образом обижаем, раним и позволяем издеваться.

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Porque el alma prende fuego cuando deja de amar.

Прочитала все пункты. Неужели еще нужно кому то читать эти пункты, чтоб поянть, что ты на booty call? Некоторые это прочитают, все равно будут следовать особенностям своего характера и понимания жизни.
Вон сколько лет Гудля на booty call. Весь форум годами орет, что это глупо, что не надо время терять. Но, там рог большой, надо все пройти до последней капли, себя измотать, нервы порвать, может что-то перевернется, что врядли случится.

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Чтобы жить и радоваться, нужны две вещи:
Во-первых, жить!!! Во-вторых, радоваться!!!

Нет зубов- вставная челюсть!

Даваите не будем никого из форума поименно називать, а? Если ето их устраивает, то их вибор.

Лучше расскажите как обходиться с неожиданно пропадающим-появляющимся мужиком?

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